Energy is neither created nor destroyed

Dear Mol,

Being a science graduate, Mummy always likes to link Physics and real life. I found it extremely hard to memorize anything, but found it ok to grasp concepts when a story was attached. A little trick grandma instilled in me when I was little.

Mol, let’s talk about energies. There was once a great scientist named Newton who conceived the theory “Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It can be only transferred from one place to another”.

Mol, in this world, we always believe there are two types of people-good and the bad. Realistically speaking I like to think as the people with negative and positive energies.

We are always told “your friends and your life situations will shape the person you become “…so true….

Have you noticed that friends with positive energy can actually make you happy while the negative ones can drain you out?

Positive energy is evolved with words, actions and thoughts. Your actions if positive in intentions will evolve positive results. This may not be evident straight away but may give you the result years later. Our ancient texts call it karma. And remember always “what goes around comes around”.

Mol life situations have made me realise the beauty of positive energy. It is indeed from the depth of my heart I believe the following:

1. Laugh every single day of your life. Sharing a joke or a hilarious moment with your loved ones can actually make you a lover of life.
2. Make a 5 minute quality time with every member of your home. This simple ritual could be just holding hands, looking into each other’s eyes….the options are endless here J
3. Stop becoming an annoying sympathetic. Be an empathetic. Putting yourself in someone’s shoes give you a better perspective about life.
4. To become a fountain of positive energy, you have to build one.. Mol have you thought about the concept of a fountain. It needs an overflow of clean water. For this you need a fresh source of energy and a good recycling system. Good sources would include meditation, reading good books and a strong sense of wellbeing. Recycling would mean examining your life critically from time to time, cleaning out the negative elements and sustaining the positive ones.
5. Energy can never be bottled. It is a free spirit which travels around. When you are happy, you will spread happiness unknowingly.
6. Recollect your school life. The challenges you faced in year 1 was way too different when you were in year 12. Your teachers prepared at each level and you faced the next level with grace and courage. Mol, life is also the same. Each time you pass the little ones, life puts in the next bigger riskier challenges in front of you.  Can you think of a better example other than marriage and parenting?
7. Your attitude is like the tyre of your car. A flat tyre will not take you far. You will have to change it at some stage.
8. Remember no events in your life is an accident. Every person who crosses your path is there for a reason. Some are to boost your happiness while some become the necessary reasons to find your happiness.
9. Living in the comfort zone is like a life of a frog in the well. Some situations will come just to move you out the comfy zone. You will find happiness though it is not evident straight away but will make you a stronger you…a better you….
10. Every challenge is hard in the beginning messy in the middle and delightful in the end. When I became your mummy, I was overwhelmed with sleepless nights, confused in juggling home and work and finally years later when I think back, I could not think of a life without you….Mol this is what the beautiful law of thermodynamics says…When two independent stable systems are brought together, some disturbances are sure to take place. This will not last forever. Once the disturbances subside, a new stable system is evolved.
11.  Like building a support system for your health and finances, it is important to build one for your mental wellbeing. Friends, good reads, therapists, teachers are all a part of it.
12. Hobbies can always calm you down. It is not an excuse to wash it down the drain once you enter marriage and parenting. Your children will observe and understand that pursuing your hobbies is a channel to positive energy and happiness.
13. Mol, every person you come across can never be your friend. It is not because he/she is bad, but because everyone is not everyone’s cup of tea. Accept and move on.
14. Mol as accomplish your goals in life, it is unnecessary to share it with every tom, Dick and Harry. Not everyone shares your same level of excitement when you complete building your house and get promoted at work. Why make them unhappy?
15. We have often noticed nature has a way of showing subtle signs before the strike of a calamity. Our body is the same. Before the onset of a calamity, it shows tiny signs. If you have been mindful, you can start the repair process straight away…someone wise said a stitch in time always saves nine….

Life is a funny teacher. It will put in conflicting situations in front of you. It is merely teaching you the art of prioritising and decision making.

When you have conflicting situations at work and home, a beautiful reminder is “my work will find my replacement, but my child will never have another mother”

Wish you all the more peace and joy,
 Mummy

Finding happiness

Dear Mol,

Of late, mummy has been talking about self -love, care, respect, esteem….

I was a child dearly attached to my family. For whatever achievements I had good words, treats and what not...none of which was a shortage. I learned a bad habit on the way- saying negative things about myself to receive a positive word and elevated expectations from others to boost my image.

 

Amidst my beautiful family, being pregnant with you

But when I came to Australia, those kind words came across the phone only. I started missing being “the child”.

Mol have you actually scrutinised these situations?

1. Why is that after an achievement, despite having a lot of positive feedback… that one snide remark is like a pin on the balloon?
2. Why is that after years of trying to achieve  that difficult goal, your happiness was short lived?
3.  Why is that you felt lost out even after reaching 99% of the targets and you were never “GOOD ENOUGH”.
4. Why is that you feel certain situations keep bombarding you all the time and not the others? 

WHY?

These are situations mummy knows too well. But the lessons learnt now are better than the lessons not learnt at all.

My dear Mol, child is indeed the symbol of innocence, beauty , acknowledgement, love and hope. It is in that period every milestone is eagerly awaited, with excitement and days are rosy and the room smells of excitement and happiness. As we grow up, we are imposed with goals which become the building blocks of our life.

your first steps

Mol think of the four situations I have put through to you….

You are the sole master of your life, not the situations you come across.

There is still that inner child in you who yearns for your attention and love. Give it abundant love and respect. Picture yourself as that beautiful 5 year old filling your home with peals of laughter, hope and joy. Try the following I have researched and have been actively practicing.

my 28th day

1. Do deep breathing for 10 minutes as soon as you are awake. After all breath is the vehicle of your life.
2. Eat, hydrate and say positive words to yourself. If a guest visits you, these will be of your highest priority. Your inner child relishes the same.
3. Whilst finalising a goal, break it down to small manageable chunks. Acknowledge your inner child each time you accomplished a task. Remember it is the tiny steps, actions and decisions which make a better tomorrow.
4. Assess your day critically at the end of each day. Visualise the beautiful 5 year old in you...Acknowledge the good deeds of the day. It can be anything from not losing your temper to eating healthy or even sorting out a drawer.
5. Make a list of things to improve upon. One could be to reduce Facebook time and thinking negative.
6. Drastically reduce expectations from other. When encountering negative words remember “it is not about me, ITS ABOUT THEM”.
7. As one of your Elemas put, " Know yourself well.  Develop the grace to take in constructive critisicms while turning a blind eye on the demeaning ones".
8. Complementing anyone for making your day a tad better never hurts. Ponder…Creating some life’s better moments never creates a hole in your pocket.

Mol as we grow older, the people who always make us happy may not be with us physically in the same room. But wherever you go, whatever you do, if you can duly acknowledge yourself, you will be happy.

Happiness is not an accident, it is an intentional effect.

Love

Mummy