Getting Emotional

I am sure like me, many of you lose your cool on and off. Initially I used to brush it off saying I belong to the fiery category of Aries. So have the right to be hot-headed , short tempered …. ( For those of you who are not astrology crazy like me, Aries is the Sun sign of the people who are born between March 20 to April 20 and have a fiery independent character).

At one stage, I began to feel this emotion is becoming the master of my life .I was not enjoying the fast adrenaline pumping, the distress of my loved ones, the after tears, remorse…list goes on.

I have come to terms with this issue. A movie recently struck chords with me. If you realize you have a disorder such as diabetes, you come to terms with it.  You make lifestyle changes and just MOVE ON.

Anger according to Cambridge dictionary is defined strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone because of something unfair or unkind that has happened. 

Some of the strategies that I have researched and trying to incorporate in my lifestyle as much as I can are:

1. Upon the onset of challenging situations, I try to move away from the situation. If time permits, watch it. 
2. If you access to drinking water, have a glass. I learnt this technique from Ammu’s childcare. For some reason, it cools you down.
3. Critically analyse the situation once you are in your better senses. What was the triggering factor? Are you co-responsible? What can you do it to prevent the next time?
4. Remember, for all what happens around you, accept you are NOT RESPONSIBLE.
5. Seeking help is not a crime, infact is a sign of maturity and courage!!!Talk to friends or elders who are generally calmer than you. A bit of worldy wisdom never hurts :)…
6. Say Sorry to the hurt party. Age is no bar here. This induces better relations with your loved ones. 
7. Yelling leads to nowhere. I adore this
8. Check your bloods. Vit D and Iron levels play with moods.
9. Teaching your loved ones that “Avoid me when I am in my moods” can prevent calamities to a big extend. Truly tried and tested!!!
10. Stop expectations from others. Unfulfilled expectation and promises from others spikes resentment. I have learnt this the hard way over the years.
11. Reacting to every unfair moment leads you to nowhere. I love this thought. It has worked all the time for me.  
    

Ending this with a lighter note….

If you  have strategies which have been working  for you please share with me. I would love to hear from you.

You cannot choose the situation, but you can definately choose your reaction.

Love Chad

Being me..Loving me..Respecting me

Being me..Loving me..Respecting me

                I love a story. A background history to kick-start a topic.

Giving up work. Having Ammu. Looking after Ammu….I felt the world was coming to a close and I felt I was not “worthy”. I felt a thousand negative feelings engulfing me. I thought going back to work will take away those negativities,

RESULT: NOT REALLY

This was nothing to do with circumstances or proving to the people around I was something. It was to do with me. It took 32 years, some months and several days to understand that the value, the respect and most importantly the love I had put aside for myself.

The day I started giving me importance was the day I felt I was seeing the world with less streaky lens.

Many a time, I hear men and women cribbing “stay at home moms” are a waste of space and money.

This was a beautiful article which changed my life and outlook as a SAHM.

These strategies have been working well in increasing my self-worth and self-respect.

1.     Stop comparing your life with others. Facebook is a good culprit here. You don’t know what they have in their plate,
2.     Read…read…read. There are some great blogs which focus on self-worth, self-respect and staying sane. This is like my morning cuppa. A few minutes of reading these peps you up to take life challenges with grace and poise.
3.       Being a perfectionist leads you to nowhere. It just burns you out at one stage.
4.       Being good enough is great enough. A happy mom=happy husband== happy family.
5.       Set aside me time for 20 minutes a day. It rejuvenates your patience levels and day to a new level.
6.       A great set circle of friends after marriage is a great source of sanity. Reconnect with your childhood friends if you haven’t. This is what whatsapp and skype calls were designed for….
7.   Say goodbye to negative people. Save their numbers and don’t pick up those calls.
8.    The Buddha thought is handy for difficult situations…”This will pass. This is not forever”
9.    Lastly tell yourself several time a day “ I love myself. I respect myself”

Love Chad