In our carefree days, Anu and I were often bombarded with
queries as ‘So when is the good news?’…..`When do we get to see Tiny Toes’..…Madi
Enjoymentu.... Time to start family’…
On a rainy October morning, Ammu arrived. She changed our focus
in life. We were now known as Ammu’s Dad and Mom rather than Anu and Chandni.
Like every parent, we started having no time at all.
This is when I would like to share an interesting experience
with you.. We were frequent visitors to a family in Sydney. There were three
absolute gorgeous children and the parents were one of the most dedicated and
loving parents ever. We often pondered upon the thought ‘what would it be like
after having more children..Would we even have time to sneak a glance at each other?
Not very exciting thoughts :(
During one visit, the father of the three children put in
this unusual question to Anu “When was the last time you took her out?”
Anu Replied “Every week “
He rephrased the question “When was the last time you went
out as a couple?”
Anu had no answer.
Upon Ammu’s arrival our relation had changed overnight. The routine each day was just feeding,
changing nappies, bathing, putting her to bed and taking her to childcare
besides work. Our temperaments were challenged. We began to squabble with each
other on the silliest matters. In fact we were being a little impatient with
the Bub as well. This was not doing any good as a parent and as an individual.
Anu suggested that he will take me out on a ‘date’ one
weekday afternoon. We both took a day off and dropped bubby at the day-care
early. He took me out to the movies and a great restaurant in the harbour soon
after…It was just great and in fact so rejuvenating…. We took a resolution that
we would be dating each other once every month from now on…
Dear Friends, although we feel we have accustomed to being
parents, somewhere deep inside many of us wish to spend a little time alone
with our better halves….This becomes a turning point in your life especially when
you are the sole carer with no support at all…It is a great reminder why you
are together in first place and was one of the reasons why you created a whole
new world of babies…It makes parenthood all the more endearing and enchanting….
Shoot me your thoughts…
Love
Chad
